Discipling is a one-on-one relationship in which a discipler helps a disciple reach his God-given potential. Discipling another man is a supportive relationship that focuses on the discipler’s agenda and includes providing practical life experience and whole-life counsel. Discipleship should be considered a deep, long-term relationship that focuses on the disciple’s needs rather than merely a short-term commitment to content mastery.
- Maintain consistent spiritual disciplines regarding your personal walk with Christ (Bible study, prayer, scripture memory, church attendance).
- Regularly pray for the ministry and the disciple with whom you meet.
- Take the initiative to faithfully meet with your disciple throughout the entirety of your discipling relationship.
- Follow up on specific needs of your disciple through prayer, counsel, encouragement, visitation, referral or other appropriate aspects of discipling.
- Commit to discussing problematic issues with the ministry director as they arise.
- Commit to the discipling relationship for a minimum of one year.
- Keep sensitive information about your disciple in strict confidence except as noted in the training that you receive from your coordinator.
- Be accountable to the ministry directors and church leadership including the elders.
Guidelines for Discipling
- Immediately respond to your disciple’s initial contact.
- Meet a minimum of once a month, but ideally two to four times each month.
- If meeting only one or two times per month, call your disciple between meetings to check up.
- Pray for your disciple, especially in areas of concern.
- Seek to meet his needs rather than expecting him to meet yours.
- Share your experiences in the light of God’s truth and how He has taught you. Be careful of simply imparting your opinions.
- Impart life skills worth copying. People are attracted to models. (Philippians 4:9; 2 Timothy 3:10-11)
- Teach and model principles and characteristics from scripture.
- Help, counsel, and deal with problem areas.
- Make sure you are making progress. Check up regularly with your disciple and ask, “Are we on track with where you want to go?”
- Find practical projects to do together, either home; family-related tasks; or activities related to ministry.
Training and Development
- Complete the required discipler training.
- Attend occasional ministry gatherings for community building, leadership development, and continuing education.